Is Fear Controlling You?
5 March 2021 – Author: Christopher Hansard
Fear. It’s something that nearly everyone has experienced. Some people have fearful thoughts all the time, and others experience fear due to situations or events. Fear can hang around like a bad smell and is hard to get rid of.
Sometimes fear can seemingly define how you feel about yourself and how you live.
Do you find yourself in this situation?
If you look at the things in your life that make you fearful, it could be a past experience , a person, a memory, a fear so strong that it casts a shadow over how you think and deal with other people, and this leaves you feeling isolated.
Fear in all its forms can only have influence over you when it is locked in tight to what you believe the fear tells you. Of course, fear in certain situations, can be a motivator to help you change your circumstances, but mostly it’s just a series of rumours and self doubt that echo in your mind.
Fear in order to stay lodged in your feelings, thoughts and behaviours has to spin a story as to why it’s there. So in order to start healing fear, you need to question the stories that fear creates .
Fear basically has three stories that it spins in several ways.
The first story is that even though fear is scary its better to stay with the fear than risk changing it. This fear is tinged with sadness and regret.
The second story, is that you can’t change it no matter what you do, because whatever you try and do never works and this fear is full of anger and self blame.
The third story is fear encouraging you to take risks to improve your life without first healing the fear itself, so that whatever success or happiness you have , it is always going to be infused with fear.This fear is hidden way in a secret corner of your mind. It erodes your self confidence and stops you from fully trusting the good things that you can create.
Fear creates a small room in your mind that stops you from fully experiencing your self. It imposes limitations that exist only in your mind.
To heal any or all of these three forms of fear you can start to examine what your fear is made of. As you do this, you’ll find that you will create more mental and emotional space within you.As you do this the fear shrinks, as it has nothing to cling to.
Make more space within you, clear your emotional clutter and your fear starts to fade. Fear fades in the light of clear thinking and as you discover an inner natural order for your thoughts, you will experience that part of you which is free from fear and the stories that it tells.
The more you can do this, the more your fear will change, and one day you will wake up, knowing that fear no longer influences the way you think and live.
About the author
Christopher Hansard is a best selling author, online psychotherapist and the leading western practitioner of Tibetan medicine. Christopher has been a key note speaker at conferences and has led seminars and workshops around the world. He has twice spoken at the Oxford Union about Social Change and Mental Health. He runs a busy International online practice offering Online Psychotherapy and Tibetan Medicine.