Passing On: Death, Dying, Bereavement & Grief
Death comes to us and often when we experience it , it can create shock waves and massive change in the way we live and view ourselves. The death of a loved one is the birth of our own understanding . Before death each us of goes through the process of dying, and bereavement can happen in others and ourselves during this stage. The separation can create grief over loss of a loved one and that taps into grief relating to other experiences and other unresolved emotional, psychological, physical and spiritual aspects of our personal history.
In the process of this all I call it 'Passing On', it's a phrase most people understand-but its not the not just the passing of a person who is dying or has died-it is the passing on of your relationship with them-into a new form, a new world, you are both passing on. It is natural. It is as things are. Learning this empowers you to gain the most from this sacred and important experience. ' Passing On' is an experience of communication, forgiveness and understanding, it is a mutual act of freedom and compassion.
Many people have a strong fear of death and of dying , suffering and separation from what they know in life. They wonder how others may view them when are gone. All of us can learn about death and dying and in doing so it increases our appreciation and quality for life, other people and ourselves. When life throws us challenges such self-knowledge can really a make a difference to how you feel about yourself, if you like yourself, your life, other people and the every day world.
I have a lot of experience with people who through illness, age, or accident are preparing themselves to die or are coming to terms with bereavement, grief, or the nature of death, dying and the passing on of people in their lives . According to their needs, I use therapeutic methods and Tibetan self-healing techniques to show people how they can learn to educate themselves and cultivate an inner balance and put their affairs in order.
They learn how to heal past unresolved hurts that are private or resolve more public issues whether that be with family, friends or in the wider world. Death is what you make it. It is the result of a process called dying, and you do not need to be afraid. By gaining self-knowledge about the process of dying that is personal to you, your own wisdom, insights, fears and family history- you can create a powerful inner resource of healing and balance. By the way in which each of us lives daily, the quality of our dying and death can be understood.
Dying is that experience where we pass from one way of living through to a point where our body and brain dies resulting in death. But dying can be quick or take as long as it needs to because each person dies in a different way. Often the dying person has challenges they need to overcome and understand or regrets they wish to make right. A dying person can affect their family and friends profoundly bringing up issues that have been hidden out of sight. I work with the dying via sessions or with family members who have challenges about their dying relative or both . Often I work with the dying person and their family and sometimes friends-this can become an uplifting and powerful experience for everyone involved.
Bereavement , that powerful sorrow that comes from feeling cut of by losing someone or a belief whether be through physical death or other loss, is a compelling and sometimes overwhelming state of being. Bereavement though, contains within it a great healing wisdom, in that bereavement it self senses when it is time to stop and move on to a new and more informed life. Bereavement is about loss whether gradual or sudden, it's to do with the gap that is left behind. Often bereavement is created by other contributing factors from our previous daily experience of life. There is a great sense of dissatisfaction that can spontaneously arise out of the bereavement experience.
Grief is all consuming an inward force that diminishes how you feel , a kind of self-implosion,where the very joy of life is made bitter by the grief . Sometimes people can grieve so deeply and profoundly that it lasts a short time, but for other others it can go on for years, slowly eroding them away. Grief can create anger, shame, illness and depressive states of experience, it can heighten pain and reduce a person's ability to socialise and communicate. Grief is a spiritual, psychological, and physical experience.
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